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Paul Colaianni

The Overwhelmed Brain : Those intrusive, invading and disturbing thoughts that you try to resist and repress

The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul Colaianni

When your thoughts make you feel bad because you believe you shouldn’t have them, you might repress them and stuff them back where they came from. However, doing this might be exactly what keeps those negative, intrusive thoughts alive. My girlfriend and I recently faced a challenging issue related to our mental and physical well-being, […]

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On November 1, 2023
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The Overwhelmed Brain : The ‘take care of you’ episode: Showing up as the best version of yourself

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What does it take to become the best version of you? What do you need to do for yourself so that you become happier and more fulfilled? This episode is all about you and what it takes to become the most supportive, compassionate person to yourself.

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On December 27, 2022
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The Overwhelmed Brain : You Don’t Have to Forgive Others

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Forgiveness is about healing inside from the hurt that was caused at the time. You may harbor resentment, anger, and other feelings toward someone else, but the hurt and pain are carried within you. So how do you forgive and move on? You start inside your own mind and explore what there is to heal […]

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On January 11, 2021
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The Overwhelmed Brain : When Panic Attacks – The Anxiety Episode

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Anxiety is the excessive worrying about future events, based on a story that you tell yourself. However, it’s hard to change the story when you actually believe it will happen. On top of that, the more you believe it will come true, the more likely you’ll experience a panic attack. Today I share with you […]

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On December 29, 2020
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The Overwhelmed Brain : Repressed emotions cause harm to the body

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The deepest recesses of our subconscious mind are where our repressed, negative thoughts and emotions linger, causing harm to both our daily thought processes and our body. If you want to know why affirmations or positive thinking doesn’t seem to work for you, it’s probably because you’re holding on to some deeper stuff that needs to be […]

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On September 20, 2020
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The Overwhelmed Brain : Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com by Paul Colaianni

Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves. This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers. This article explains how your […]

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On April 1, 2020
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The Overwhelmed Brain : Happiness dissolves when you don’t let other people know what your boundaries are

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What does it take to honor your boundaries and live from that authentic place inside you? Do you earn the respect you deserve? You might be surprised to find out that respect from others happens naturally when you honor yourself and your personal boundaries. Doing this shows the world who you really are, and what […]

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On May 1, 2020
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The Overwhelmed Brain : Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day

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Passive aggressive behavior is a way to convey anger and upset to someone indirectly. It takes the form of comments that are meant to hurt, but hard to spot as hurtful. Passive aggressive comments are forms of poisonous communication that can erode love and connection. (the following transcript for this episode edited for easier reading) […]

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On June 6, 2020
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The Overwhelmed Brain : The Dramatic Victim Doesn’t Want Change

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Have you ever met someone who complained about their circumstances but wasn’t willing to do anything to change them?   In fact, if you were to suggest a possible solution to them, they would come up with an excuse or valid sounding reason on why your suggestion wouldn’t work. And the more you tried to help, […]

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On March 30, 2020
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The Overwhelmed Brain : How to make sure you make it through the big changes in life

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If you don’t mind, I’m going to be Captain Obvious for a moment and share something with you that you already know: Life can throw you a curve ball and turn your entire world upside down. Let me give you an example of a curve ball: My mom spent nearly $100,000 renting a house for […]

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On December 3, 2019
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The Overwhelmed Brain : When tiny compromises lead to resentments

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Do you make small compromises with the people you love so that they will like or love you more? There are two ways to compromise: One has attached resentments, the other doesn’t. I’ll give you one guess which method of compromise works better for the relationships in your life. Transcript follows I’m going to start […]

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On October 8, 2019
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The Overwhelmed Brain : How to Make Your Relationship Last Almost Forever

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Do you value what your partner values? If not, you may be in for a rude awakening when they suddenly get upset with you for seemingly no reason. What’s important to you may not be important to them, and vice versa, but it might be a good idea to make what they value important to […]

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On June 27, 2019
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The Overwhelmed Brain : Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction

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If you show compassion toward someone who then takes advantage of that compassion, do you back off on being kind, helpful, and accommodating? Or do you try even harder by showing them even more compassion in hopes they will finally “see the light”? In order for compassion to work, it has to come from an […]

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On April 7, 2019
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The Overwhelmed Brain : The Ultimate Guide to People-Pleasing

The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com by Paul Colaianni

If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention or fear of confrontation, then this is for you!   As a former people-pleaser myself, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become very proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you […]

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On March 31, 2019
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The Overwhelmed Brain : “I am not the cause of the problem, you are!”

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Have you ever tried to tell someone they were doing something you don’t like, or that they were just outright wrong, but they turned it around on you and put you on the defense? i.e. “Why are you asking me if I called my ex last night? Why do you always overreact when I make […]

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On March 16, 2019
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The Overwhelmed Brain : Is it ever okay to release toxic family?

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I received an email from someone who was very angry with me. She said “You should be ashamed of yourself for teaching that it is okay to break ties with family!“ She was referencing an episode I did on toxic family members and how I said if they are too toxic to be around that […]

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On February 17, 2019
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The Overwhelmed Brain : How family drama can teach you a lot about personal boundaries

The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com by Paul Colaianni

When your family has dysfunction, family gatherings can be quite a challenge. What do you do in the midst of family drama? Do you recoil and transform into the old, pre-personally-developed you? Or do you stand firm in who you are today and love then with your healthy boundaries? Family is the final frontier of […]

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On February 10, 2019
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The Overwhelmed Brain : Making decisions that are right for you, and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all – Part 2

The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com by Paul Colaianni

This is part two of a two-part episode. Part one is here. The subject is all about obsessive behavior and repetitive thoughts that keep you stuck. Whether they’re about your ex, your job, or your life, it can be a huge challenge to stop thinking of something that has a great impact on you. It’s […]

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On February 6, 2019
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