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When you live with your romantic partner and their relatives, and your partner doesn’t seem to want that to change, what do you do? I received a message from someone struggling with a challenging living situation. He lives with his wife, his mother-in-law, and another family member – and they’re having issues. I know what […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

A listener shared with me that someone called her passive-aggressive. She had no clue that that’s what she was doing, but she asked me how to identify it in herself and how and why it comes about. I address this very important subject in this article. The article below is an addendum to today’s episode. […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

If you find yourself questioning the value of your existence or struggling with deep-seated negativity, this episode addresses those heavy, existential questions that might be weighing on your mind. How do you cope when life feels overwhelmingly difficult, and is it possible to find peace amidst persistent inner turmoil? Today I address that and more. […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

If you find yourself questioning the value of your existence or struggling with deep-seated negativity, this episode addresses those heavy, existential questions that might be weighing on your mind. How do you cope when life feels overwhelmingly difficult, and is it possible to find peace amidst persistent inner turmoil? Today I address that and more. […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

If you find yourself questioning the value of your existence or struggling with deep-seated negativity, this episode addresses those heavy, existential questions that might be weighing on your mind. How do you cope when life feels overwhelmingly difficult, and is it possible to find peace amidst persistent inner turmoil? Today I address that and more. […]

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Why do obsessive thoughts take over our minds? What keeps them there? And why can’t we stop them after they start? Obsessive thoughts are pervasive and invasive. If you’re struggling to let go of past events and find yourself caught in cycles of regret and anger, I want to help you get off the hamster […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

Why do obsessive thoughts take over our minds? What keeps them there? And why can’t we stop them after they start? Obsessive thoughts are pervasive and invasive. If you’re struggling to let go of past events and find yourself caught in cycles of regret and anger, I want to help you get off the hamster […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

Relationships require empathy. Without it, you will have an imbalance that will not only feel lonely but also emotionally toxic.  A woman once asked me if it’s possible for a person with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) to change. She wondered if her narcissistic husband could have matured and outgrown the disorder. Unfortunately, I have some […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

Feeling stuck, like really stuck, sucks. And when you feel like you have no other options but to accept your circumstances, it can feel sad.

And sometimes, you can even become depressed, making you wish you could at least feel sad again!
The po…

The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

Some people do not want to forgive and forget. If you’ve ever wronged someone, felt guilty about it, and apologized, but they weren’t able to let it go, will there ever be a chance to make up with them and move on? When someone is stuck in the past of what you did to them […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

Have you ever looked back on a situation and thought, “I should have spoken up” or “I should have shared how I really felt”? I’ve been there too. Over the years of doing my podcast and this blog, I’ve shared how I’ve taken risks and tried new approaches. There came a point when I decided […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

It’s one thing to be afraid to fall off your bike. It’s another never to consider riding one just in case you fall. The fear of failing can be imagined as so traumatic and painful to some that they literally do nothing instead. As you know, doing nothing leaves you in a rut. It is […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

Your friends and family really want the best for you. But what are they going to say when they see you make a decision they believe is just crazy? A woman wrote to me and told me she decided to take a break from her husband after telling her friends and family how awful he […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

Is true love supposed to last throughout your life? Should you feel love for those that have wronged you in some way in previous relationships? Is it healthy? Having that loving feeling for previous partners in your life can raise questions in current relationships. It’s a good idea to get clear on what your best […]

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Should you be judgmental or critical toward people that never change? Is it your job to change them?

Judgments have no place in relationships. But when they are there, they almost always lead to disconnect and resentment. 

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

A self-described “germaphobe” shared with me their challenging experience at a work function. The presence of food triggered an embarrassing moment for them, which ultimately led to tears. When you have behaviors and nuances that others might judge you for, do you hide them from the world? Should you? Sometimes, we can’t hide who we […]

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When people you care about put their attention on other things, like games or their phone, you may feel like they are ignoring and even neglecting you. If they are, that doesn’t feel very good. What should you do? Tell them to get off their phone or else? Or is there a better way to […]

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It’s a challenge to stay present for someone who is so down and out. Sometimes, you go into your own “stuff” trying to help them with theirs. It’s the curse of many highly sensitive people and certainly difficult for almost any empathetic person. But there are ways to help others without getting into your own […]

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The Overwhelmed Brain https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ by Paul

Have you ever had a tiny squeak in a door in your home that irritated you every time you used it? What happens after you oil the hinge and the squeak goes away? To some, it can feel like a life-changing moment! That and other quality-of-life improvements can actually create happiness and make the day-to-day […]

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Whether it’s the jerk at work or that one person in your family who just doesn’t like you, rude and intimidating people can be found in any corner of the world (and under many rocks). In this episode, I share seven suggestions that will help you counter those behaviors and perhaps even make some of […]

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